Updated: Sep 20, 2019


Emotions have a terrible rep, and there is a reason for this. We have all had experiences where we have had to deal with unpleasant emotions that have made us experience feelings that are unwanted and hard to cope with. These experience are so tricky that it creates fear around these feelings especial in times when similar emotions come up and create a reaction where we can experience some scary physiological responses such as the flight, fight or freeze reaction. It can also create other physiological responses such as increased heart rate, sweating, among others.

Although no one should minimise these experiences as they are a terrible experience for any person, no matter how you look at them. But, there is another perceptive here, the emotion itself is not what is creating these unpleasant reactions; it is the learnt behaviour that creates the connection between the feeling and the response. This means that within the brain, a connection has been made between the emotion and the automatic reaction. Another perceptive here is that the feeling itself creates no harm other than to notify you of an unpleasant experience that is like a warning system that things are not in alignment with what you want or what you foresee for yourself. This means that these emotions can be a powerful tool if used appropriately, they can be used as a guidance system. By shifting the perceptive of these emotions can help to change the automatic response and its impact on you by reducing the power these reactions have on you and your daily life.


Everyone is unique in their own way and experience everything in unique ways, so it is important to remember that this is also the same with your emotions not everyone will experience emotions in the same style so being gentle with yourself and not creating a situation where emotions need to be labelled as good or bad is another helpful approach. When we create a case with a negative label, it automatically

creates a situation of stress and discomfort, and as much negativity and expectations related to emotion must be reduced as this can ease the need for a strong reaction.


To conclude, it is crucial to understand emotions on their own don't create the discomfort but rather the reaction to the feeling. They can also be an opportunity for you to utilise these emotions; as an opportunity to understand your own feelings and needs in a given situation. Being loving and gentle with one's self it importance to self-care and dealing with difficult emotions.

Be gentle, and we hope you found this information helpful.

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